Dear blog

I've been terrible about updating you. I'll leave a short "appetizer" update then hopefully in a few weeks get around to catching up.

love Myndi

Things I've learned from planning a wedding:

1) Don't put things off
2) DON'T put things off!!!!
3) No matter what you say people ARE going to make you pick/ask for your input on every freaking little thing except the few things you actually care about
4) never try and avoid any part of it.
5) just accept that you won't be wearing jerseys like you wanted in March instead of July and get a wedding dress so you don't have to freak about if it's done yet
6) it'll cost the same if not more to get your dress altered. Be prepared
7) once you freak out about 3 times and yell at everyone-even tho you feel kinda bad- people start leaving you alone about stupid little things like 'Is this color of blue OK?' just cuz they don't wanna be yelled at again. but you gotta actually melt down. not just cry.
8)Everybody you meet will have suggestions and hints and advice. unless you really like the idea do what you want. The people telling you stuff have either A) already had their wedding or 2) will have one someday. This one is yours. Accept their input nicely and non committally and then forget it.
9) Understand that you will be super sick of everyone remotely related to you by the end. but no worries you can tell them to leave you alone after the fact for at least a month and make it stick. ;)
10) also know that it's for the families. They will take over and take your idea of what you wanted (i.e. a small BBQ reception in jeans and football attire) and turn it into something completely different (i.e. a formal wedding complete with dress, tux, 700 invites sent out, flowers dresses and all that foofy crap) it does no good to dwell. keep a few things that you won't budge on (i.e. I am wearing chucks and at 8:01 pm I will no longer be at the reception, and there won't be anything even resembling a line) and deal with the rest. it's only a few hours then you never have to do this again
11) if you are planning on having a wedding on one day and a reception on another you need to set ground rules and be kinda men about it . Rules such as if you call either of us before 1:30 pm on Saturday or even attempt to present either of us with any kind of problem I will be forced to hurt you in ways that would make jigsaw look tame.
and last but not least
12) it'll be over soon. just remember. it's like 10 hours of you life. one day of work. Just breathe and count down the days. (we're at 3). Then you'll never have to do this again. in and out


Also on another note Saturday (Aug 8) I was endowed in the Bountiful temple. It was supa awesome and I'll forever be grateful to the people who were there and especially Tara who took time out of her supa popular supa busy schedule to be there and help me out. with like everything. Thanks ya'll!

Now I've avoided life for long enough. I'll post more when I can breathe again